An Exercise In Trivial Pursuits

A Life Lived in Wasted Fashion

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Lurvehandles – a Singapore-based Plus Sized Store


Today’s post features my beautiful friend Becky whom I’ve known back in Singapore since our IRC days in the late 1990s. Becky now lives in Georgia with her American husband and we’re still in contact via the Internet. Some time ago, LURVEHANDLES  sent me a few items for review (which I did HERE and HERE) but there was one item that just couldn’t work on me, so I mailed them to my lovely friend Becky (of Subscription Box-oholic) and she did justice to it!

IMG_6141Becky says:

When I first saw the dress I wasn’t sure how to work it. It seemed rather drab and unflattering. However, with some advice from the wonderful Esther, I paired the dress with a green cardigan from Kohls and black heels from Me Too. I matched the outfit with some random bangles and necklace I had laying around and my green Ivanka Trump purse was a perfect match. I’ve never been really comfortable with my body and this really made me step out of my comfort zone.  

Mustard Yellow Dress SGD35.90

Brown Slim Ribbon Belt SGD12.50

Even though they operate out of Singapore, LURVEHANDLES accepts overseas orders and does international shipping too!

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Writing Process Blog Hop

To be honest, I am just a tad concerned that I’m quite a non-social blogger and almost never participate in these communal activities - especially those which require you to nominate others for blog awards, answer personal questions then tag fellow bloggers. This however stands out because it made me sit down and think. Thanks to fellow Singaporean blogger Evelyn who asked if I wanted in on this!

I met Evelyn about 10 years ago when we were working together to form the Music For Good Society. She was then a post-graduate student (I think) while I was a school teacher. 10 years on, she has 2 kids and is blogging about motherhood, whereas I’m pining for motherhood while blogging about… juvenile stuff (?).

I love Evelyn’s blog – especially when she posts about learning opportunities and the activities she creates for her children. I would love to be that kind of mother someday…


1. What am I working on?

I work on my trusty 6-year old unibody MacBook or hammer out entire posts on my pink iPhone 5c. What?

*koffkoff* In a more general sense, I am working on creating a lifestyle blog that is integral to my personality yet separate from my identity. Clichéd as it might sound, I want to be frivolous and irreverent whenever appropriate because I have multiple opportunities to be level-headed and responsible (hello real life). The title of my blog should have clued you in, no? Trivial pursuits are harder than some make it out to be…

I am constantly trying not to overthink or make too many plans for what to put on the blog so as not to take away the joy of fatuous spontaneity. Outside of the few sponsored posts I publish, I post something when I actually do have something I want to share.

At this moment, there are 3 key components to the lifestyle elements - mostly fatshion; increasingly more about vegetarianism; and in smaller doses, domesticity.

2. How does my work differ from others in the genre?

Fatshion is essentially Fat + Fashion. I don’t want to be a fat activist or join the body positive movement to talk about shaming the thinspo camp or lament about all the things I’ve been deprived of because I was obese growing up. I’m not proud that I’m fat, I know I’m fat because I’m 15kg overweight and that’s just it – but that doesn’t deter me from frolicking in bright, flashy clothes. My message is here are the clothes I wore despite my excess flab and you can buy them from there. (There are also other non-average women like me who lead pretty colourful lives too - check them out HERE)

As a non-PETA supporting vegetarian, I will not show you heart-wrenching videos of a cow defecating all over itself while being decapitated in non-humane circumstances (Morrissey I’m looking at you) then yell at you to “GO ENJOY THAT BLOODY STEAK OF YOURS NOW!”. I would much rather show you all the delicious things I eat, where to get them or how easy it is to make them. And oh, by the way, they are all meat free too.

People are just too caught up with all that hate, angst and tragedy. I don’t want any part of it when I can choose to.

3. Why do I write what I do?

What wastedfashion is, is essentially the highlight reel of one small part of my personal life. I am privy to the self-indulgence factor and I encourage whoever wants to to partake while knowing full well that they will do so with discerning discretion. I’m not being dishonest. Surely nobody thinks that I’m that one-dimensional – that all I do is fuss over what to wear all day long and where to shop next. Do I wish that was all I did? Here’s a clear resounding NO! I treasure the experiences my multi-faceted life presents even if I do find myself drowning in overwhelming realities sometimes.

People get too caught up in the humdrum that is daily life and forget the little silly things that can make up the best parts of their day. My blogging rationale is that most people have their own deadlines to meet and mortgage payments to contend with – why would anybody be interested in mine?

People at the office were constantly asking me what I was wearing and I knew for a fact that not everyone who asked where I got my clothes from were genuinely interested in where to buy them. Many were obviously judging me. As long as I know I haven’t violated any decency laws or breached official dress codes, I’m free to wear what I want and I’ll tell you, no holds barred. Self-sanctioned fashion police have no jurisdiction here.

When this blog started it was a frivolous outlet for my friends and I. It was just fun to steal a couple of minutes from the mundane routine of the cubicles to just do something inane. The outfit posts usually takes me all of 10 minutes at the start of the work day to take photos, put together a description and upload. Then it was back to budgets, approval papers, schedules, meetings… ho hum diddly dum…

Also, in the beginning, I was just the face of the blog, there were other co-conspirators and content contributors – those were fun times…

4. How does my writing process work?

My writing process is less complicated than… breathing (which is actually a very complex affair if you think about it). I picture my target audience – who is it for? Is it for me? Yes, cool. Let’s do it! 

It’s a blog, people!! Why so serious?

In all seriousness, I do actually just cobble something together on the spur of the moment instead of spending time making notes then composing a convoluted piece of literary whatever. It’s very stream of consciousness even if I do however re-read after publishing something and am known to edit 1,000 times if I’m not satisfied. Sometimes. In reality, I consciously choose frivolity over verbosity. Anytime.

If you’re someone trying to start a blog, I’d say write what you know and keep going. You have to find joy in what you do before it will trickle down to your audience. If you’re trying to monetize your blog, get freebies or be popular, then I have nothing of value to offer you because wastedfashion isn’t it. Like many who do as I do, this is a great place to start if you want to exchange ideas with likeminded individuals. I find inspiration in how others live their lives and I want to share the best slices of mine.

And please, refrain from apologies when having been absent from your personal blog unless you’re contractually obligated to produce content. Nobody dies when you have writer’s block or are too busy living life to record your experiences.

Did I study writing? Yes. Can I teach writing? Yes and I have. Am I a writer? No. There, I said it. I don’t take my blogging very seriously and neither should you. If you like the ditzy nature of it, I’d like to invite you to please continue enjoying my exercises in trivial pursuits.

In continuing with the blog hop, please hop onto these next 3 blogs I’d like to recommend. They will be publishing their writing process post on the 28th of July (next Monday).

1. JuanitaTortilla

Juanita and I have known each other for almost 30 years. We were primary school classmates at the Convent of the Holy Infant Jesus (Toa Payoh) but we were never really close friends then and even though we attended the National University of Singapore at the same time, we basically had no contact with each other till after we found each other on Facebook. The strange thing was, we became closer friends when we stopped living in the same country. She blogs about her adventures living in various countries as a trailing spouse, her cat loving and her innovative upcycling craft business.

2. Curves Become Her

I’ve never met Aarti in person even though I lived in Singapore till a year ago. She’s super ultra friendly, actively engages other bloggers and often commented on my posts (and that’s how I knew her) – whereas I hardly visit other blogs and I almost never leave comments. She’s vocal and she’s out there constantly blogging about the various challenges in life, openly encouraging people to embrace their own flaws etc.

3. Adventures of a girl from Naki

I can’t actually remember how I got connected with Trees at the start, but a few years ago, she left a comment on my blog and mentioned that she was visiting Singapore. I got her to email me so I could recommend her some things to do and places to go. In the end, I took some time off work to hang out with her and showed her around the island! Trees lives in New Zealand with her partner Rich and blogs about their adventures – they travel A LOT, also she showcases her awesome dress-making skills with her outfit posts (which makes me totally envious because she has limitless new clothes all the time).

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Fat-shionista #541

IMG_5801This is one of my first 2 HELL BUNNY dresses. I bought this in November 2012 when my friends and I flew to Melbourne, Australia to catch Radiohead. I’m not sure if this is true but it is said that RADIOHEAD will never play in Singapore because there are no human rights protection laws there. So instead of taking the risk of never ever seeing them LIVE, my friends and I decided a group holiday was long overdue anyway. It was super fun! 8 of us in a rental apartment in the heart of Chinatown. Before life got to us (work, marriage, family, children etc), we met every weekend at the same places. You didn’t even have to call. You just turn up and at least a few people from the gang would be at 1 of 2 hangouts. I use the term gang loosely because there are over 20 people in our group, some of whom no longer lived in Singapore – and now there’s me. We are now just a secret Facebook group. I’m glad we’re still connected though.

You know kids, life changes so quickly and even if you don’t think you will, YOU WILL. So enjoy today while being responsible for your tomorrow – you want both financial security and your nest eggs of adventures. You don’t want to be one of those lonely old rich people who are just full of what-ifs and I-should-haves. Money can only buy you that much happiness. There’s no turning back the clocks. Don’t be afraid to live what little you have. I have lots of stupid hijinks stories and crazy travel tales that would fuel my old age because… you know, I was really top notch at making bad decisions and naively fearless of the unknown. Heh heh heh… Ask me and maybe I’ll tell you in private.

What I’m wearing today:

Dress: Black ruffle “Margot Floral” dress with pink/purple prints from HELL BUNNY (bought at Off Ya Tree)

Accessories: Mint green ombre bead layered necklace from FOREVER21

Outerwear: Silver 3/4 sleeve mini cardigan from DELIA*S

Footwear: Black gladiator wedges from KENNETH COLE REACTION



Fat-shionista #540


As you can tell, this is statement necklace is my Accessory Du Jour. It’s just so fun and easy to throw on almost everything I own. I got it at the FOSSIL outlet store at Fashion Outlets of Las Vegas in Primm Valley for only USD15 last year!

As you can tell, I love bright colours. I am making up for lost time since I spent most of my 20s in dark coloured clothes (and vertical stripes). Given that I spent 5 years as a school teacher, I felt like it was part of the job description that I dress more “sensibly” and less “flashy”. Needless to say, I wasted my youth pretending to be an old lady.

I’m going to be 40 in 4 years and even if age is just a number, damn Mother Nature and gravity doesn’t know that. I fear the day when I get too saggy to enjoy myself anymore… HAHHAHAHA!!! So the time is NOW! People, hear me. THE TIME IS NOW! Regardless of your insecurities. It WILL eventually go downhill and you don’t want to wait for that day to come before regretting everything you didn’t do.



What I’m wearing today:

Top: Rainbow mosaic tank top from H&M Divided

Bottom: Mint swing skirt and Peach Meringue petticoat from DOMINO DOLLHOUSE

Accessories: Pink baubles statement necklace from FOSSILPink bangle from SONIA RYKIEL POUR H&M; Black stretchy belt with double buckles from BCBGMAXAZRIA

Footwear: Black gladiator wedges from KENNETH COLE REACTION


Fat-shionista #539


This is one of my favourite ASOS purchases. I like skater dresses and skirts because of my lack of curves. I need the flare of the skirt to break the solid block that is my body. Also ASOS has a Petite range and there are always copies of the same item that’s found in their Straight size collection for shorter people. I’m between 5′ 0″ and 5′ 1″. I always say 5′ 0′ because it’s neater. HAHA!

What I’m wearing today:

Dress: Black rosette skater dress from ASOS

Accessories: Blue chinese knot necklace from FONDA (at Far East Plaza); Brown faux leather belt from STEVE MADDEN

Footwear: Brown heeled clogs from OLD NAVY



If you’re under 5′ 4″ too, where do you normally shop? I would really like to get into Maxi dresses but it’s so difficult to buy something off the shelves without having to get it shortened.


Fat-shionista #538

IMG_5645What I’m wearing today:

Dress: Blue spotty sweetheart neckline frock from H&M

Accessories: Red jewel flower statement necklace from MYBEAD88 on eBay

Bag: Red leather tote from KATE SPADE

Bottom: Black meringue petticoat from DOMINO DOLLHOUSE

Footwear: Black wedge heels from ZIPIA

My pal Ryddy gifted me this dress from England and he likes women to dress with a more feminine style. So the key thing to making this dress work for me was the petticoat. I don’t have nice curvy hips (or any hips at all) so I wouldn’t be able to take advantage of the fact that this dress had a big circle skirt. This is what I call the inverted cupcake look – the frosting at the bottom, see? I would love to dress like a cupcake all the time…

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Meatless Monday: Kuah Satay Linguine

IMG_5939I’ve been having the weirdest PB&J cravings lately and I’m not even a fan of peanut butter. Dare I say, I don’t even like Reese’s Pieces? For some reason, it goes really well with the Oatmeal Walnut loaf that I baked (using THIS RECIPE). After eating it 4 days in a row, I had a craving for satay gravy (or kuah satay). I loved satay and when I ate meat, my favourite were chicken and lamb satay. I’d eat lots of raw onions (YES), cucumber chunks and ketupat while dunking the barbecued meat skewers generously in the peanut gravy. Oddly enough, my inspiration for this dish is not the Satay Beehoon commonly found in Singapore but pad thai (hence the use of linguine).

Peanuts are a wonderful protein source for vegetarians. I’m very concerned about the protein levels in our meals because T is a big guy and he mentioned several times that he doesn’t think he’s eating enough protein required for his height/weight. Peanuts and peanut butter are great in lieu of meat, and in this recipe, I use both.



Serves 2. Prep Time: 5 minutes. Cook Time: 15 minutes.

Pasta (enough for 2)

3 tablespoons lime/lemon juice

1 teaspoon minced garlic

3 tablespoons creamy peanut butter

1 cup hot water

2 tablespoons soy sauce

1/4 cup crushed peanuts

2 tablespoons crushed red pepper

Handful of spring onions (for garnish)


1. Cook pasta as directed.

2. In a bowl, mix all the ingredients except crushed peanuts and spring onions. Whisk.

3. Pour the peanut sauce over cooked and drain pasts. Mix to coat noodles.

4. Serve with crushed peanuts over noodles and garnish with spring onions.


The best part is that this dish tastes delicious cold too. Keep the extra sauce separately in the fridge and pour over the cold noodles to re-coat them the next day. Also, add more crushed red pepper if you like it spicier!

Want to use this sauce for your satay skewers? Just add another tablespoon of peanut butter (and switch to chunky peanut butter if you want), and throw in the crushed peanuts to mix. It’s that simple!

I served this yesterday for lunch with boiled edamame soya bean pods and BeyondMeat Chicken-Free Strips which I grilled with some Panda Express Mandarin Sauce.



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